It’s crazy to think that in less than 30 days, my engagement will be over. I’m so excited to marry my fiance Eric, but it’s strange to think that after a year and a half, this stage in our lives will be over.
I’m a planner and I love organizing things so wedding planning is right up my alley. I jumped into it with a lot of enthusiasm and we quickly were ahead of the wedding planning game. Just a couple of months ago, Eric and I hardly had anything to do as far as wedding stuff goes, but now that we’re officially less than 30 days out, that all has changed. Now we have all of these nitty-gritty little details left to accomplish, things that I happily didn’t worry about before.
So as Eric and I finish out these final days of our engagement, I thought it most appropriate to round-up five of the most important things to do right before marriage.
1. Collect all those missing RSVPs.
Picking out my wedding stationary was one of my favorite parts of wedding planning. I now truly get the appeal of stationary in ways that I never did before. One of my least favorite parts of wedding planning is chasing down missing RSVPs. However, no matter how much I dislike it, it is a necessary part of the wedding process. You don’t want unaccounted for guests showing up at your wedding with no seats or no food. Technology makes it so easy today to reach out personally and gather up those final numbers.
2. Don’t Forget to Pick Out Your Music
Unfortunately, because of some communication issues, Eric and I had to find a new ceremony musician and reception DJ just in the last couple weeks. The last-minute change had me stressing, but I knew ultimately it was the right move because we needed to get going on music selections. Now Eric and I are spending countless hours trying to figure out what we want the processional song to be. We already have the bridal song and the recessional song chosen and we’re pretty happy about that!
3. Make a Wedding Day Timeline
You always hear all of these horror stories of brides showing up to their weddings an hour late. I don’t know about you, but I would not like waiting an extra hour as a guest, and I especially don’t intend to make my guests wait. Making a Day-of-Timeline is something I still need to do. In order to do so, I need to first talk to my photographer so I know what time she’ll be taking what photos. Then, I’ll talk to my beauty people and make sure they have the time they need. After that, it’ll be up to me to make sure everything gets where it needs to be and everyone shows up on time.
4. Make the Dreaded Seating Chart
One of the best things I did for my wedding was hire a calligrapher, Jenna at La Cartita. She is a creative genius and everything she makes is gorgeous. I cannot recommend her enough. So much of her work will appear at my wedding, and I commissioned her to make a mother’s day gift for my soon-to-be mother-in-law. Anyway, some of the things Jenna made for me were agate escort cards. I’m in love with them, but I still need to make a seating chart to go with them. It seems today that lots of people try to skip seating charts, but if you’ve ever been to a big event without one, you know things end up a mess. Making a seating chart is totally uncomfortable. You don’t want to offend anyone and you want to make everyone as comfortable as possible, and yet you know both those things are probably impossible to accomplish. But try anyway. It will actually make everything better in the long run.
5. Get Those Thank Yous and Tips Ready
I’m not even talking about the thank yous to all your loved ones (who most certainly deserve and should receive a thank you as well). I’m talking about thank yous and tips for all the people and teams who made your day the amazing thing that it was. People say that nobody cares about your wedding as much as you do, and that’s true but if you hire truly amazing people to help, they will do a magnificent job of making your day a truly memorable experience. And everyone deserves a thank you for that. I know my vendors sure do. They answer countless calls, are extra accommodating, and their flexibility is life-giving. It’s important to have those thank yous and tips ready to go so it’s one less thing to forget when it comes to your big day.
Ok, well that rounds up my list of 5 things to do before your wedding (and my first official post)!